Everyone has come to this earth with a purpose to fulfill in their life.
You are the writer of your own destiny, your own story of life. Often, we are surrounded by many people and influenced by them. But the truth is—our future is defined by us.
If there is anyone who truly knows what is best for us, it is none other than ourselves. We are the only ones who know what is right and what is wrong. When we were children, there were always people—neighbors, uncles, and aunts—trying to create a path for us, telling us what we should do in life: become a doctor, an astronaut, or an engineer.
But those were their opinions about our future. Deep down, only we know what is best for us. And that’s why we stand where we are today—because we alone are responsible for our actions and our future.
It is good to show compassion, love, and affection toward others. But it is equally important to first love yourself. “Love thyself” means practicing self-love and self-awareness.
Once you start to love yourself, you take control of your life in your own hands and begin to live on your own terms. If you don’t, others will continue to dictate your future, and you will live under their influence.
If you are easily swayed by others, you may begin to believe that your thoughts and choices have no value. And society often reinforces this, shaping us to believe that our lives should be led by the opinions of others.
Take a small example:
“My parents were doctors, and they wanted me to become a doctor too. That’s why I enrolled in MBBS.”
Or, “My father always wanted to be an IAS officer but couldn’t succeed, so I am doing this to fulfill his dream.”
Aren’t these statements familiar? Think about it.
Many times, we live life according to what others want for us. There’s nothing wrong with this if it truly makes us happy. But somewhere, deep inside, we know that something is missing. Too often, this realization only comes when we are on our deathbed—that we lived life to the tune of others. And by then, it is too late to rewrite our story.
One of the biggest barriers is the fear of judgment—log kya kahenge (what will people say). This mindset stops us from doing what we love, from even daring to dream. We pity ourselves for not trying, yet feel a false pride in having lived for others.
My friends, while it is beautiful to love others, it is equally important to remember: this is your life. You have the right to make choices and to write your own story. Stop letting others hold the pen.
Instead, take it into your own hands. Write the story of your life so that when the final chapter comes, you can say: At least I tried. Even if you fail, you can still say: So what? I did my best. I lived on my own terms.